In more urban families.Īs far as the divorce rate Sv, I have to disagree with you there. I believe the process of arranged marriages depends on region and whether or not the families involved are from a rural or urban setting. Since my grandparents were in India, they met my future Uncle's parents and both gave their approval. Him and my aunt decided that they liked each other and wanted to get married. Apparently upon meeting one of the men, the next day he was asking my dad for his blessings. The two were usually given time to talk to one another. It was my parents that took her different places here to meet potential husbands. From the family and friends that I know, the matchmaking is usually done directly by the relatives.the guy and girl decide to marry, the parents check each others' family out (this can be done before or after the introduction), and then in some groups, an astrologer is consulted.įor example, my Aunt came to the US single about 17 years ago. I know I responded to you in the other thread, but I wanted to clarify for our non-Indian friends that in certain circles, it's done a little differently. I thought this would make a good debate topic.I'm still two-three years from having to do anything so I think it would make for good discourse.Can we have logical discussion about this? This ties in with the above.How sage is that elder? Did you pick the right person? In my family this hasn't been a problem.We've always picked a favorite uncle/aunt to do the looking. The divorce thing could be a major problem if the match is a complete mess. (Or not, which is why this could be a Con as well) This is either done by a parent, sibling, or relative that knows you very well. They rely on their experience to select what they think is the best. Usually the matchmaking is done by a sage elder. Both people going into this with a high degree of security and willingness to work things out. In our family history of at least 100 yrs, it's never happened. It's uncommon even in the US to hear of a divorce. You have the final say in all instances.īelow I'll attempt to summarize what I believe are the Pros and Cons of a such a system You usually have two to three meetings (This is an old fashioned way.In the cities, the couple dictates the pace) and then must decide. Usually an intermediary (usually a relative) brings two families together.Based on the families discussion, a meeting is held where the prospective couple meets. (Except for the chauvanism part) Consequently I'd be labelled as too boring for modern Western girl.įor our non-Indian A net friends, the Indian Arranged Marriage Scheme is not of the shotgun variety that you are likely imagining. Why not a Western girl? Well I'm a product of the 1950's Indian values. As a result, I'm likely to do the same.Why? I'm not thrilled with the Indian girls in US.Quite underwhelming in my opinion. My sister chose the arranged marriage route and it has been quite succesful. There is no family pressure as I've been born and raised in the West. I've been given the choice of finding my own or doing things the old fashioned way. What do you think of it? (Logical, constructive comments Please!) I brought up the topic of Indian Arranged Marriage in the Indian A-Net thread.
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